Even people with mild sexual aversions and relatively low levels of anxiety worry in advance about the possibility of being in an unwanted sexual situation. They adopt a variety of avoidance rituals, including:
- bringing work home from the office
- beginning tasks like washing clothes or cleaning out kitchen cupboards just before bedtime
- insisting they "don't feel well"
- making phone calls
- watching TV
- leaving the bedroom door open "in case the children need us"
- making sure to go to bed before or after their partners
- filling every available evening and weekend with social engagements
- starting an argument just before bedtime
- making themselves physically unattractive by gaining weight, wearing curlers and cold cream to bed, or paying the bare minimum of attention to personal hygiene
Some people sabotage sex, seeing to it that sexual activity is boring or stressful so that their partners will lose interest; others cloud their consciousness with alcohol or tranquilizers. Single individuals may date, but refuse to have sex on moral or religious grounds. They may develop any number of ingenious methods to discourage romantic advances altogether, whether by making sure they don't look attractive or by behaving in a cold or rude manner. Many singles avoid sex and intimacy unconsciously by deeming every potential partner unsuitable and breaking off each relationship before it really begins.
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Men's Health-Erectile Dysfunction
